She knew she wanted a monogamous relationship-a partnership with a man who wanted to be a dedicated husband and father. I became the man she needed me to be because she had sense enough to have requirements-standards that she needed in her relationship in order to make the relationship work for her. “I realized right then and there, in that hallway, that I wanted no other. And you, in the meantime, win the ultimate prize of maintaing your dignity and self-esteem, and earning the respect of the man who recognized that you were worth the wait.”

The man who is willing to put in the time and meet the requirments is the one you want to stick around, because tthat guy is making a conscious decision that he, too, has no interest in playing games and will do what it takes to not only stay on the job, but also get promoted and be the proud beneficiary of your benefits. It tells him that what you have- your benefits- are special, and that you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES them. A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a plaything-someone to be used and discarded. “I'm sure that if woman laid out the rules- requirements- early on, and let her intended know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on. That’s right, I said it-it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how. Well, I’m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love- that perfection-from a man is unrealistic. That’s a woman’s love-it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. ”Īct Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you-I mean really loves you?-she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. “Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love-it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional.

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